A kid who hates sports, gets bullied for being “different”, and finds refuge painting sets backstage does not usually grow up to become one of America’s most in-demand wedding planners. 

Jason Mitchell Kahn did, and his story is a reminder that the places that keep us safe early on can end up shaping our whole life. We talk about South Florida suburbs, theatre as sanctuary, and what it feels like when other people think they know your sexuality before you do. 

Jason came out as he was finishing school, right as Will & Grace hit TV, and he describes the kind of family response many listeners dream about: loving, calm, and practical. We also dig into how representation lands differently for gay men and lesbians, including how his sister’s journey takes longer because she does not see the same cultural permission to thrive. 

If you care about LGBTQ+ visibility, coming out, and chosen family, this conversation holds a lot in a short space.

From there we move into his work creating inclusive weddings in Manhattan, from first planning his sister’s ceremony to becoming known for same-sex weddings that feel personal rather than gendered. We get into the details couples really need help with, why queer weddings can be both joy and protest, and how celebrating love can be a bright spot in dark political times. Jason also shares what led to his book We Do, an inclusive wedding planning guide for anyone who feels othered by the traditional wedding industry.

…and if you’re interested, you could find out more about him through his website. That’s jasonmitchellkahn.com. And if you’re in the market for a big gay wedding, do look him up.

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You can grow up surrounded by farmland and still feel like you’re living on another planet. 

Kris Saim joins us from Kansas City to talk about what it means to carry secrets for decades.

Kris shares a raw coming out story shaped by childhood sexual abuse, the fear-driven silence it creates, and the deep imprint of Pentecostal teaching that labels gay people as sinful. 

Kris also grew up in the AIDS crisis era, when misinformation and panic made being a young gay person feel dangerous even before you could begin to explore your own identity. From marrying his best friend to becoming a dad, he explains how “doing the right thing” can sometimes be another way of hiding.

What changes the trajectory is a deliberate choice to live authentically. We talk about coming out first at work, the surprising power of being believed and embraced, and then the harder conversations that follow with a spouse, parents, and children. Chris also discusses building a respectful co-parenting setup that his kids carry into their own relationships, proof that family can evolve without losing love.

Chris is the host of powerful podcast, Dying Out Loud, created while he lives with stage four cancer. Built around letters he wrote to the people who shaped his life, it’s a legacy project and a challenge to all of us: stop postponing the words that matter. 

Find out more about Chris and hear his podcast at: dyingoutloudpodcast.com

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We talk with Manchester-based poet Amy about growing up without queer role models, first love with a best friend, and learning to claim “lesbian” with joy. The chat ends with her live poem about a double coming out in Wetherspoons.

• childhood in Grimsby with little queer visibility
• legacy of Section 28 shaping silent classrooms
• first crushes, confusion, and a secret relationship
• telling mum and dad in small, human moments
• TV and history as lifelines for representation
• reclaiming lesbian and standing with trans siblings
• haircut, visibility, and letting beauty be ours
• poetry from slam urgency to crafted page work
• practical advice on safety, timing, and community
• live reading: Coming Out In Wetherspoons

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A goodbye note found on a computer. 

A father who says, “I don’t understand, but I love you.” 

A marriage that proves joy can grow in places once ruled by fear. 

From rural West Virginia to an online audience that shows up for humour, makeup, and honesty, we sit with Bobby Jean Spears as he traces a path from secrecy to self-belief.
 
 If you’re weighing how and when to come out, you’ll find practical advice: start with a trusted friend, build a small circle, and save the family talk for when you feel safe. 

If you’ve faced rejection, you’ll hear how life can still open up in surprising, ordinary, wonderful ways. 

Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with someone who needs a reminder that better isn’t a slogan; it’s a direction we can walk together.

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This episode also honours the legacy of Anne Algar, a lesbian trailblazer whose activism for lesbian mums shaped the ground we stand on for so many of us.

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 The moment Christina saw a woman looking back at her in the mirror changed everything. "I can't really describe the euphoria," she reveals. "It was like finding something I didn't know was missing."

Christina's journey began with childhood signs that went unrecognised. Growing up in the 1990s, she always gravitated toward traditionally feminine activities and friendships with girls, yet lacked the framework to understand her identity. When her father bought her football tickets as a treat, she innocently asked, "Have I been really naughty? Is this a punishment?"

Her journey took a troubling detour at university when she first approached a GP about gender dysphoria, only to be dismissed with antidepressants that numbed rather than helped. "I was treating a symptom in a very negative, very non-constructive way," Christina reflects. Years passed before the COVID lockdown forced her to confront suppressed feelings and begin her transition in earnest.

Coming out proved so challenging that Christina initially wrote letters to friends, unable to verbalise her identity. While most relationships survived her transition, including a remarkable friendship with her supportive ex-wife, others couldn't accept her authentic self. Today, Christina works with trans support groups in Greater Manchester, helping others navigate similar journeys.

Her story illuminates the power of persistence through societal barriers and personal doubt. As Christina puts it: "It's a marathon, not a sprint... I never thought I'd be able to get to where I am now." Her experience reminds us that while finding yourself may be difficult, the joy of authenticity makes every step worthwhile. 

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When Patrick Kitana Ettenes bluntly told his father "I suck dick, daddy" at 15 years old, it marked just one turning point in a life brimming with extraordinary challenges and triumphs. Born in Barbados in 1983 to a Dutch father and Trinidadian mother, Patrick's childhood was a paradox of privilege and pain—his father's high-profile security work with prime ministers and diplomats couldn't shield him from relentless bullying due to his feminine expression.

Patrick's shocking classroom experiences included teacher-orchestrated "games" where students chased and attacked him, leaving him with bruises and scratches his mother eventually noticed. Despite this trauma, he emerged with an indomitable spirit, eventually leaving Barbados for Cuba on a psychology scholarship at just 15, before settling in Manchester, UK, where he finally found community and acceptance.

But life in England wasn't the paradise he hoped for. Patrick survived an abusive relationship that left him homeless, battled substance abuse, contracted HIV, and was diagnosed with early onset dementia in his early thirties. Yet rather than succumbing to these challenges, he transformed them into fuel for activism. Finding no support groups for LGBTQ+ people with dementia, he created them himself, launching the "Bring Dementia Out" initiative with the Alzheimer's Society.

Patrick's identity journey is equally compelling—identifying as non-binary and sometimes presenting as female at conferences, he embraces both sides of himself while rejecting the pressure to undergo gender confirmation surgery after learning it might affect his sexual pleasure. His perspective on dementia is particularly remarkable, describing how as his brain degenerates, his empathy and intuition have heightened, giving him what he calls a "superpower" to help others.

Have you encountered someone whose resilience fundamentally changed how you view adversity? this extraordinary conversation that will challenge your perspectives on sexuality, gender, disability and the transformative power of turning personal trauma into community advocacy. 

Read more about Patrick's work and diagnosis here

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What happens when you've spent nearly seven decades hiding your true self? Wendy Cole's story is a testament to courage, resilience, and the transformative power of authenticity.

Born in the late 1940s, Wendy knew from age three that she was a girl, despite being assigned male at birth. At ten years old, she bravely dressed in her mother's clothes and declared her truth—only to face threats of psychiatric commitment in 1950s America. Her journey took another painful turn in the 1970s when a psychiatrist called her a "freak" during her second attempt to transition, forcing her back into the closet with what she describes as "padlocks on the inside."

For the next 45 years, Wendy lived a life of quiet desperation—marrying, raising children, and building a successful tech career while suppressing her identity through marijuana and psychiatric medications. By 2014, at age 67, she had reached breaking point and was contemplating suicide.

Then everything changed. Discovering that medical understanding had evolved and treatment was now available, Wendy finally began her transition in 2015. The transformation was profound—not just emotionally, but physically. She lost 70 pounds, reversed her type 2 diabetes, and found a joy she never thought possible. "Transition saved my life," she tells us simply.

Today, Wendy works as a transition mentor, helping others navigate major life changes with her hard-won wisdom. Through her coaching, upcoming books, and podcast "Demystifying the Transgender Journey," she's dedicated to humanizing the transgender experience for the wider world.

Her message resonates far beyond the transgender community: "You're never too old to be yourself" and "The joy you'll find on the other side is something you never dreamed possible." Wendy's extraordinary journey proves that authenticity is worth fighting for—no matter how long the wait. 

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Welcome back to Coming Out Stories after our six-month hiatus! As our seventh year begins, there have been moments when giving up seemed tempting. But looking at the increasingly hostile world around us, it's clear that now is precisely the time these stories need to be heard.

Season Six arrives during a critical period for LGBTQ+ communities worldwide. Here in the UK, the Supreme Court recently ruled that gender is defined by biological sex rather than gender identity, effectively undermining transgender existence and eroding hard-won equal rights. The FA has implemented a ban preventing trans women from playing in sanctioned football matches. Across the Atlantic, similar rollbacks of protections continue. These aren't merely political developments—they represent genuine threats to individuals who already face intense shame, hatred, and bigotry.

Our upcoming episodes feature a remarkable collection of voices that capture the full spectrum of the coming out experience. You'll hear from a trans woman describing the euphoria of finally seeing herself in the mirror, a person whose coming out was delayed by years after a mother's casual homophobic comment, someone whose gay awakening came through representation in "Queer as Folk," and many more. Our first episode features Wendy, who attempted to transition in the 1970s but would then wait another 45 years to finally become the woman she is today. Her powerful conversation with her wife from 1978 reveals the personal challenges faced by trans individuals across generations.

Follow us on Spotify or your preferred podcast platform, and please consider giving us a five-star rating to help others find these vital stories. Connect with us on Facebook and Instagram at Coming Out Stories Pod for updates and additional content. Share these stories—they might just save someone's life. 

How do you stay true to yourself when both society and your own family won't accept you?

Kuchenga Shenje is a remarkable trans woman, writer, and journalist, who first understood her true gender identity at just three years old.
Kuchenga's story is one of resilience and spiritual strength. Her childhood experiences shed light on the challenges trans folk face in a gender-normative environment and she shares the solace she found in trans representation on 90s talk shows.
Kuchenga's story is a powerful testament to preserving your true self against adversity.

You can follow Kuchenga on Instagram and X and do visit her website.

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In this episode,  meet the hugely successful author Simon James Green.

Simon writes books for a YA audience that include vital representation for LGBTQ+ teens.  This has led to his books being vilified and even banned. 

Simon talks about growing up gay in the UK in the shadow of  Clause 28, a time when  being true to oneself seemed nearly impossible. 

Simon recounts his personal journey of gradual self-revelation—a roadmap marked by subtle hints and professional expressions rather than a single defining moment. This powerful narrative underscores the importance of visible LGBTQ+ role models and challenges the often unspoken assumption of heteronormativity. We explore the myriad ways people navigate their identities, reminding us all that creating safe spaces for genuine self-expression is vital.

We also discuss the ongoing challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community, delving into the resurgence of anti-LGBTQ+ sentiments and the book bans that Simon faces as an author. 

Oh, and our Emma is getting married!  HUGE congratulations to her and the wonderful Siobhan!

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Imagine growing up wanting a Barbie doll but feeling afraid to ask for it.

In this episode, award-winning author Dean Atta, shares his poignant journey of self-discovery and the courageous story of coming out at 15. Dean reveals the trials and triumphs of navigating childhood and adolescence as a queer individual, offering a heartfelt reflection on his first crush and the strength he found within himself amidst rejection and misunderstanding.

Dean talks about the challenges of coming out within a mixed-race family during the 80s and 90s. We also discuss the powerful themes in his memoir, "Person Unlimited," and how cultural heritage has been a cornerstone in his journey toward self-acceptance. 

The conversation takes a broader look at the impact of LGBT representation in education and the ongoing fight for inclusivity. We discuss the significance of having queer-positive books in school curriculums, the importance of supportive educators, and the role of mental health practices in fostering resilience. 

Dean shares his personal journey to self-love, emphasizing the importance of nurturing supportive relationships and mental well-being. 

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What does it mean to grow up LGBTQ+ in a conservative environment?
Jordan Gonsalves is a podcaster and journalist from New York, who shares his deeply personal journey of understanding his sexuality in the conservative suburbs of Houston, Texas.
Jordan's reflections on childhood bullying, societal pressures, and the early realization of being different paint a vivid picture of the struggles many LGBTQ+ individuals face during their formative years.

Growing up within a devout Catholic family, the fear of being gay led to years of self-suppression, but during an internship in San Francisco, Jordan found freedom in a new city and then support from a fellow gay intern.

This episode captures the raw emotions of living a double life and the ultimate release in embracing one's true self. From a transformative conversation by the San Francisco Bay to a revealing trip to India, Jordan's journey towards self-acceptance is compelling.

Moreover, the episode celebrates the preservation of queer history, featuring touching stories from the "But We Loved" podcast. Hear from queer elders like Stonewall Riots participant Martin Boyce, whose experiences echo the resilience and courage of the LGBTQ+ community across generations. Join us for a heartfelt and inspiring episode that underscores the power of storytelling and the enduring fight for acceptance and equality.

Find Jordan on X and Instagram

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What does it take to come out after 55 years of hiding your true self?

Kevin O'Connor, an author and a gay man found the courage to embrace his identity after decades of living a different life.
In this episode, you’ll hear Kevin's reflections on his early inklings of being gay in the 1960s, his struggles with authenticity, and the pivotal moment when his youngest son came out at 16, prompting Kevin to finally confront his own buried feelings.

This episode delves into the complexities of coming out later in life and the transformative power of embracing your true self.

Kevin's unique upbringing in a Victorian house-turned-funeral home provides the backdrop for his memoir "Two Floors Above Grief,"

Kevin's story isn't just about his personal journey; it's a testament to the evolving landscape of LGBTQ+ acceptance and rights.


Find out more about Kevin and his work here

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Happy Pride Month!

Today's episode comes from brilliant children's author Robert Tregoning

Robert shares his journey from a rural village in County Durham, through the turbulence of the '80s and '90s, to becoming an advocate for authenticity and self-expression. From childhood memories of defying gender norms to finding solace in understanding friends, we uncover the impact of societal expectations on his formative years. We also get a sneak peek into his new book, "A Fairy Called Fred," and hear the incredible story of how he met his husband.

You can learn more about Robert and his work at his website here

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Ben Green grew up trans in a small Connecticut town.

Now an activist and author of "My Child is Trans: Now What?" Ben reflects on just how different his childhood was to his sister's as he tried to navigate the complexities of gender identity without any trans role models.
This story explores the profound impact that representation—or the lack thereof—can have on a young person's journey to self-discovery and authenticity.

From the supportive embrace for his bisexuality, partly due to shows like "Modern Family," to the more challenging acceptance of his trans identity, Ben casts a light on the ever-present need for mainstream representation for all of the LGBTQ+ community.

We round off our time with Ben by discussing his evolution from teaching to public speaking, ignited by a TEDx talk's viral success and his drive to connect with a wider swathe of allies through storytelling. His book serves as a beacon of hope, offering parents of trans children a joy-centered guide in a landscape often clouded by negativity. The conversation also celebrates recent positive strides in LGBTQ legislation, emphasizing the power of local advocacy in effecting change. 

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Imagine embarking on a voyage of self-discovery that doesn't truly begin until the age of 40. That's the  reality for Jenny, a trans woman with a tale that unfolds with laughter, adversity, and, above all, authenticity. As she reminisces about her childhood in Woking and the challenges of expressing her true identity pre-internet, Jenny's experiences from makeshift gender expression at home to her eventual powerful coming out in Manchester shine a light on the journey many in the trans community face.

For Jenny, the world of Drag was a haven that embraced her when she needed it most, but she soon realised that was not where she truly belonged and found her way to comedy. 
Jenny's story is a testament to the power of finding your tribe and the transformative effect of unconditional love. Yet, it's not without its heartbreaks, something she candidly shares, including the violent encounter that marred an early performance and the ongoing struggle for acceptance.

Step into the spotlight with Jenny as she stands tall in the world of comedy, using her wit to disarm hecklers and her compelling stories to carve out a space as a trans entertainer. Her upcoming Edinburgh show "Seahorse" promises to be a whirlwind of humor and honesty, reflecting the unique perspectives of her life. Prepare to be moved and amused!

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Imagine the courage it takes to forge a path as a black queer woman in a world where your identity intersects with a rich tapestry of culture, tradition, and belief systems. This is the life of Anna DeShawn, a social entrepreneur from Chicago. who came out in a religious household and went on to create spaces where queer voices can echo and resonate.

In an intimate exchange, Anna and Emma navigate the  complexities of family acceptance in the black community, revealing both the struggles and the victories and the evolution of her identity through terms like 'queer', 'gay', and 'lesbian'.
We learn about Anna's father's journey from disbelief, to becoming a beacon of support,  demonstrating how love can transcend even the most rigid of barriers.

Anna also educated us on the queer media landscape, where she is carving out her legacy. She unveils the motivations behind E3 Radio and the Qube app, platforms that amplify marginalized voices and create a symphony of black and brown queer narratives. Her ambition mirrors that of icons like Robin Roberts, who have laid the groundwork for visibility and representation.
Connect with Anna on Instagram  X or TikTok

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From his first inklings of being different at a summer camp,  to the seismic shift that occurred when he saw real gay representation in corporate America, Michael's journey is one of struggle, resilience, and triumph in the face of adversity.

Michael's story not only peels back the layers of his own coming out journey, but also addresses the emotional challenges that often linger beneath the surface of the LGBTQ+ community in a city known for its progressiveness, New York City.

Michael  is also director of brand marketing and communications for Archer, a new dating app committed  to fostering genuine relationships within the gay community. Find out more about Archer here

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Remember that gut-punch moment when everything you thought you knew about yourself was turned on its head? That's where Kirsty Loehr found herself at 16, blindsided by the realisation that her sexuality wasn't what she'd always assumed...

In this episode, meet Kirsty, author of "A Short History of Queer Women," and hear  her journey of self-discovery against the backdrop of a Manchester council estate. This episode peels back the layers of what it means to come to terms with one's queer identity, pre-social media whirlwind and without a blueprint for what lies ahead.

With humor and heart, Kirsty recounts the early clues of her attraction to women—yes, including that trademark lumberjack shirt—and the role her incredible mother played in fostering a space where being gay was never an issue. From the rough-and-tumble of adolescence to the profound impact of a supportive family, our conversation is a testament to the courage it takes to embrace who you are. 
As we explore the vibrant tapestry of queer women's experiences, and perhaps you'll see a bit of your own story reflected in Kirsty’s.

Buy Kirsty's book here, or wherever you get your books. 

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 Moe Ari Brown, was born into a working-class, religious family and raised on the South side of Chicago amid the Black church's rich traditions. Moe felt invisible  during their youth but at college, they had an epiphany – that gender identity and sexuality are not fixed points but vibrant spectrums.

As a relationship therapist and guide, Moe's insights are not only personal milestones but also lighthouses for others on similar journeys, from their bisexual awakening to the discovery of a transgender community that felt like home.
Moe also discusses the tribulations that bisexual daters encounter!

Find Moe on instagram here and check out their NFAQ page on Hinge here.

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Growing up in Peterborough, in the centre of England,  Arthur's story tells of the intimate struggles of growing up with a gender identity that defies societal norms.

With insights into the complexity of coming out to loved ones when you're trans, the battles fought within gender clinics, and the ongoing need for visibility and support for trans youth, this episode is a celebration of the trans community as they face very difficult times.

This episode also celebrates TRUK United FC—the safe haven Arthur helped create for trans men to unite through the love of football. The team stands as a beacon of hope, not just for its members but for the wider community, providing a space where acceptance and understanding are the rules of the game. 

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Imagine discovering your true self at a time where even the word "transgender" was seldom whispered, then fast-forward to seeing that reality reflected on national TV!

Annie Wallace, a pioneering trans soap actress, takes us through her life, from her earliest memories of gender identity struggles,  to life in Aberdeen's  first gay bar, and the bullying endured by those who dared to be different, through her influential role behind the scenes of beloved TV characters like "Coronation Street's" Hayley Cropper to her own starring role as Sally St. Claire in the Channel 4 soap opera Hollyoaks.

Annie's story is a testament to resilience. She takes us on her emotional rollercoaster of transitioning, the heartwarming tale of her family's reactions, and the ripple effect her brave choices had on breaking barriers in the media industry.

This is an episode that celebrates the victories, acknowledges the struggles, and honors the ongoing quest for equality, with Annie's story reminding us all of the transformative power of living authentically.

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Gary's story is proof that life does indeed begin at 40!

Gary's journey through marriage, heartbreaks, and eventual joy in finding deep love will bring a real smile to your face.

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As the curtain closes on our 2023 series, we bring you the incredible story of Ann!
Beginning in Liverpool in the late 50s and early 60s  – a time when innocence mingled with confusion in the absence of visible LGBTQ+ role models,  Ann's tale then takes us through the swinging 60s of London, the rigid discipline of army life, and into the heart of personal discovery and selfless, passionate activism.
Anne's story reveals not just her struggles and triumphs but also the landscape of a society grappling with change and the evolution of our community.

This is an episode that not only honors the past but also inspires hope for the future.

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 Verity Smith is a trans gay man who is passionate about playing wheelchair rugby.

After first coming out as a lesbian in the 90s, Verity played women's rugby and was too afraid to come out as trans, as there were no policies in place for trans players in the game and he would have had to give up the sport he loved.

He did eventually come out and was faced with a barrage of transphobia and discrimination.

After a devastating  injury incurred on the pitch, Verity ended up in a wheelchair, but found an incredible community in wheelchair rugby.

Verity's story is ultimately one of acceptance, self-discovery, and love. As well as a celebration of the resilience and strength embodied by the LGBTQ+ community.

Verity is Chief Diversity Officer for the World Barbarians and Trans Sport Inclusion Manager for the brilliant charity Mermaids 

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Born into strict Muslim traditions in Syria and raised in Jordan, Luma is a beacon of hope and courage for all of us in the LGBTQ+ community.

Her personal coming out story is complex; spanning cultures, religions, and generations. As a young adult in a country where being gay was considered a crime, Luma came out to her parents and was disowned, it took many years until her own daughter played a pivotal role in reconciling their family. Luma is also testament to the importance of chosen families within the LGBTQ+ community.

Luma is also the founder of Fugees Family, a non-profit that aids child survivors of war and Luma shares how her personal coming out experience positively impacts her work.

Check out her inspiring TED talk here.

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From Nigeria to the UK,  Reverend Jide's Macaulay, otherwise known as the 'happy, holy homosexual,' reveals his life's story.

From braving patriarchy and toxic masculinity in Nigeria to enduring conversion therapy in London, Jide's testimony is nothing short of inspiring. His deep-seated faith in God and in himself, and his relentless pursuit of acceptance, not only for himself but for the entire LGBTQ+ community, shine through his story.
Jide outlines his journey into Christian ministry and challenges the often-misinterpreted biblical verses referring to same-sex relationships.
We also delve into the harsh realities faced by the LGBTQ+ community in Nigeria, highlighting the need for a shift in societal perception.

Finally, Jide shares his strong commitment to positive change through his organisation, House of Rainbow. We discuss the damaging effects of conversion therapy and his own father's involvement in creating anti-LGBTQ+ laws in Nigeria.

Despite these obstacles, Jide's unwavering resilience and determination to spread positivity and acceptance make this an episode you simply cannot miss! 

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What does it take to live authentically in the face of adversity and societal norms?
Juno Roche is an iconic figure in the transgender community and a notable author.
With a life composed of resilience, identity, and transformation, Juno has a wealth of experiences - from growing up in a tough family to navigating the world of LGBTQ+ culture during the 70s-80s, and discovering her true self amidst personal challenges.

In this conversation you'll hear about Juno's  childhood experiences, her battle for identity, and the challenges she faced as a transgender person in a prejudiced society.
Her story moves from being a functioning drug addict during her younger adulthood, to her diagnosis with HIV that led to a turning point in her life and identity. Her fight is tangible, her spirit unbroken, and her journey profound.

Find out more about Juno and their work here

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Get ready for a heart-stirring journey as we welcome you back to a brand-new season of Coming Out Stories. After a (rather long) pause, we're returning with a line-up of extraordinary stories that transcend across the LGBTQ+ spectrum, painting a picture of resilience, hope, and love.

Be captivated by the story of a brave gay priest standing against all odds, including his own father, to fight for LGBT rights in Nigeria.

Meet Juno Roche, a transgender woman whose life journey is as awe-inspiring as the script of a Hollywood blockbuster. 

Join us on the emotional rollercoaster as we share the experiences of Verity, a trans man and rugby player, and Luma, a Syrian lesbian. 
Verity's life took a dramatic turn, leading him from the rugby field to a wheelchair. He now works tirelessly with the trans charity Mermaids, striving to challenge the detrimental atmosphere surrounding trans community in sports and beyond. 

Luma's story showcases her resilience and determination as she sought asylum in the US due to her sexuality, finding a new community in an alien land. Each story is a testament to the strength of the human spirit, filled with threads of love, hope, and positivity. 

Don't forget to check out our book, Coming Out Stories, which now also comes in a Welsh edition. We're excited to bring you an unforgettable season of inspiring stories!

Kit: I never understood why all my friends were obsessed with boys.  Then I came out, fell in love with women and lost my mind!

In this, the final episode of season four, meet Kit from London.

It took Kit a little while to realise she was a lesbian and she didn't come out until she was 30.

Follow Kit on twitter for news on where to catch her show 30 and Out.

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Valentino: My family simply didn't know how to raise a gay child

Valentino grew up as a gay man and now identifies as being gender fluid, and whilst they are currently living in Manchester, England they were born and raised in Bermuda.

They have quite the life story and this episode only really begins to scratch the surface.

Please be aware:  This story contains descriptions of sexual activity and is centered around the subject of being groomed. You may find some of the content uncomfortable or triggering.

For more onformation about Valentino's work, visit djvalentinocartier.com

And for more information on Bermuda Pride, visit their website. 

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Dharma: The teacher told me to play with the other boys, but I knew I wasn't a boy.  It was a secret I kept for a long time.

Dharma Kelleher is a pansexual crime writer, based in Phoneix, Arizona who puts lesbians and trans women at the heart of her novels.

She grew up in a small town just outside Atlanta.  She knew as a very young child that she was trans.

Find out more about Dharma's work here.

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Clifford:  My dad suggested conversion therapy and I let him sit with that idea, I was literally the first gay person he knew.

Clifford is our first sapio sexual storyteller.  A real world citizen, he is of Indian heritage, had a Catholic upbringing in Dubai in now lives in Australia.

He speaks about what being sapio sexual means to him and how his family reacted to his coming out as gay.

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In this very special eisode, we're sharing an intervew we did with Brad Shreve on his excellent podcast Queer We Are, a show where Brad talks to  entertainers, activists, politicians, artists, athletes, and more of the most interesting LGBTQ people from diverse backgrounds.

We hope you enjoy it!

Find out more about Brad and Queer We Are 

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Brad: For more than 30 years I convinced myself "I can't be gay. I will change someday"

In this episode, we're back in the United States, to the Californian desert to meet Brad.

Brad didn’t come out until his 30s, by which stage he had married a woman and had had a child.

Brad also came out in a way that we've never  spoken about on this podcast before...

Find out more about Brad and his podcast Queer We Are 

You can find out more about The Trevor Project here

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EJ: I’ve had quite the internal war about how I identify. I don’t want to use the labels that society gives us!

EJ is a young person who lives in a small  town in Ohio, USA. 
They identify as a gender queer masc lesbian.

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Andrew:  I told myself that being bisexual was just a phase.  It was not!

Andrew identifies as bisexual. 

He hails from Scotland and is behind the LGBTQ+ sports website Pride of the Terraces.

Although he is now very  open about his sexuality, it was a big decision for him to come out in a newspaper.

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Grady

Grady Throneberry  is the first openly gay police chief in Kentucky.

He didn't come out until his sixties and what a story he has to tell!

Married to a woman, with grown up daughters, he lived in his words as a "straight, conservative man" until 2018.  Until he was outed, very publicly, which led to him being called into the Mayor's office for a meeting...

Find out more about Grady and his book My Journey to the Rainbow on his website gayandgray.net

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Lucy Lou

The moment I put that dress on, I thought "I'm here!"

Lucy Lou is a trans woman who waited nearly 40 years to become the person she always was.

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Day

It took me all night to garner the courage but at sunrise, I came out to her

Day is an artist and writer from California.

He identifies as a gay man and is passionate about the power of rituals.

You can find out more about Day here and more about his book Hello, goodbye. 75 rituals for times of loss, celebration and change.

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Mark

Because I only heard the term in the playground,  I used to think "gay" meant someone who was bad at sports.

Mark Chesnut is an award-winning travel writer based in New York City.
He is also the author of the memoir Prepare for Departure: Notes on a Single Mother, a Misfit Son, Inevitable Mortality and the Enduring Allure of Frequent Flyer Miles

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Yo Yo

I grew up where it was illegal to be gay.  I had to write love letters to my girlfriend in code

Meet Yo Yo,  a lesbian from Malaysia, where it's illegal to be gay.  She nearly got caught when a love letter she wrote to her girlfriend was opened.

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Andrew

I don't want to be hemmed into a box.  I've done that for so many years.

Meet Andrew from Brighton, who once considered himself a "gay man" and now identifies as a "queer person".    

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Jennie

"So many people knew they were gay from a young age, but that's just not my story""

Jennie Guay is an author who had only ever dated men when she moved from Canada to England in her late 20s.

After deciding to explore her sexuality, she set her dating profile to "seeking women" and changed her life.

Jennie's book "Howie Blend: Playdate Adventures with Family and Friends" is available here and at all good bookshops.

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Jaxon

 My Dad joked "What's wrong?  Are you pregnant? Are you getting a puppy?  You're not trans are you...?"

Happy Trans Awareness Week! 

To celebrate, we'd love you to meet Prison Officer Jaxon, a trans man from Wigan in the north of England, and hear his uplifting story.

Please note:  Jaxon is very honest about his mental health and this episode contains discussions of suicide.

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Rob

 “I tried so hard to change who I was.  I changed the way I dressed, the way I spoke and even the way I walked.  I didn’t feel safe being myself.”

Rob is a travel expert, who you may well have seen on TV in the UK, on shows like Rip Off Britain and Morning Live.  

He identifies as gay and despite choosing to wear dresses and asking to be called “Sally” for much of his childhood, his mum still told him she had ‘no idea’ when he came out.

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Serena

When I came out to my 9 year old son, he said “Mammy, that’s very brave of you”

Meet Serena, from Ireland, who came out as a lesbian later in life, just before she was due to marry the father of her two children.

Serena’s story comes with a pretty big twist at the end…

Happy National Coming Out Day!

October 11 is National Coming Out Day in the UK and to celebrate, we've put together a very special episode just for you!

In this instalment hear from three of our previous guests talk about how their lives have changed and moved on since we last spoke and we also discuss questions like;

Why do we still need to come out?  (Straight people don't do it!)

Is there ever an argument for not coming out?

How important  are allies from outside the LGBTQ+ community when you're coming out?

What can we do to help made the world a better place for trans and non binary people especially?

What advice do we have for people thinking of coming out?

Any words of advice for parents/carers/friends who are on the receiving end of someone coming out to them?

Many thanks to Claire, Divina de Campo, and Richie! 

“From the time I was a young kid, I always felt really connected to being both male and female” 

The first episode of our brand-new season belongs to a non-binary icon!  Broadcaster Paris Munro actually has a couple of coming out stories, firstly as a lesbian, then as non-binary.

Ahead of a brand new season, we’re celebrating some of our favourite episodes!

Oskar

“I take the view with my trans identity, that unless you’re going to get into my pants, I’m not really interested in coming out to you”  

Oskar grew up in Trinidad and identifies as trans masculine, but non binary.  In terms of their sexuality, they identify as pansexual.  Suppressing the urge to transition for 20 years had a huge impact on their mental health.

Ahead of a brand new season, we’re celebrating some of our favourite episodes!

Divina de Campo “If ever there was a little queerdo kid – it was me”

Star of The Voice and runner-up in the first ever Ru Paul’s Drag Race UK, Divina de Campo talks about coming out as gay and then non-binary and offers some great advice on WHEN to come out.

Ahead of a brand new season, we’re celebrating some of our favourite episodes!

Angela and Lucia 

“Doctors tried to give me a lobotomy because I was gay”  

Two absolutely incredible women tell their coming out stories and also stories of being lesbian activists in Manchester in the 1970s and how the Gay Liberation Front changed the lives of LGBT people across the country.

Jacob

“Before I go into a public toilet I have to think: is there anyone in there who could hurt me?”  

In a beautifully honest interview Jacob talks about coming out to themselves and then to their family, just four weeks before this interview.

Ahead of a brand new season, we’re celebrating some of our favourite episodes!

Asad

“Before you come out, you assume the worst of the people you love.  That’s really hard” 

Asad grew up in a British Pakistani Muslim household and feared the worst when coming out to his parents.  So much so, he packed a bag and had a friend wait outside in his car, ready to escape.

Ahead of a brand new season, we’re celebrating some of our favourite episodes!

JJ

“I was scared to tell my wife how good it felt to wear a dress” 

JJ, or Jessie, is a gas fitter from Manchester who is happily married to a woman and has two children. But they identify as non-binary or gender fluid and were terrified they would lose their family when they came out.

Ahead of a brand new season, we’re celebrating some of our favourite episodes!

Dean

“I remember regularly being called a fa**ot at just 9 years old” 

In this episode, actor and BBC Radio 1 presenter Dean McCullough talks about growing up as "Gay Dean" in Belfast in the 90s and 00s 

Tracey

“I came home to find my son on the sofa with his school friend.  I could feel the chemistry between them.  It was a real lightbulb moment for me”

It’s the final episode of our “Meet the Parents” season, where you’ve been hearing from the families of LGBTQIA+ folks about their experiences of having a child come out to them.

On this episode, meet Tracey, mum to Jake, who came out to her at 12, although he wasn’t sure how to identify.

Des

“When my sons first came out, I had to re-evaluate the ideas I had held about the lives they would lead. That took time"

On this season of Coming Out Stories, we’re going to “Meet the Parents!”

Over the next six episodes, you’ll hear to hear from the families of LGBTQIA+ folks about their experiences of having a child come out to them.

On this episode, meet Des, dad to not one, but two gay sons.

He now has a "Proud Father" t-shirt that he wears to Pride, but admits he did struggle when his sons first came out.

Des now volunteers for https://www.fflag.org.uk/

Sarah

“I really wish as a family we’d had conversations about LGBT+ lives with all our children much earlier on”

On this season of Coming Out Stories, we’re going to “Meet the Parents!”

Over the next six episodes, you’ll hear to hear from the families of LGBTQIA+ folks about their experiences of having a child come out to them.

On this episode, meet Sarah, mum to the child she affectionately calls “Noots”

When Noots came out as trans, Sarah admits she “didn’t know what to say” and went on a personal journey of education, understanding and love.

Sarah now volunteers for https://www.fflag.org.uk/

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Bruce

“We had no idea he was crying himself to sleep every night" 

On this season of Coming Out Stories, we’re going to “Meet the Parents!”

Over the next six episodes, you’ll hear to hear from the families of LGBTQIA+ folks about their experiences of having a child come out to them.

Today, one of the most extraordinary changes of heart we've ever heard. 

Bruce was a Pentecostal Minister, who felt "disgusted" watching a Gay Pride parade on TV. Yet now, after an incredible journey following his own son coming out, Bruce has left his church and now attends those very same parades, with great pride.

For more information on Bruce's new church head to https://diversechurch.website/

For more information on FFlag, click here.

Jackie

“I realised that the magazine I found under my son's bed was not a body building magazine..."

We’re back for Season Three!

This time on Coming Out Stories, we’re going to “Meet the Parents!”

Over the next six episodes, you’ll hear to hear from the families of LGBTQIA+ folks about their experiences of having a child come out to them.

Today, meet Jackie.  Around 20 years ago she set up a group supporting the parents of gay and trans children called Families Together London. She has not one, but two gay children, a son and a daughter, who had very different experiences coming out.

Annie

“When my child was three she told me she didn't want to wear 'boys' clothes anymore"

We’re back for Season Three!

This time on Coming Out Stories, we’re going to “Meet the Parents!”

Over the next six episodes, you’ll hear to hear from the families of LGBTQIA+ folks about their experiences of having a child come out to them.

As ever, there will be laughter, tears, perhaps some tension, but also love and understanding.

Today, meet Annie.  She’s the proud parent of a seven-year-old daughter who is trans.

Stevie

“When I came out to my mum as gay she said "Is that because you can't get a boyfriend?"

In our final episode of season two, meet Stevie!

Podcaster and musician Stevie came out twice to their family, firstly as gay, then as non-binary.

If you are the parent of an LGBTQ+ person, or you identify in that way and your parent would like to speak to us for our next season, please do get in touch, we'd love to talk!

Email: hello@comingoutstoriespodcast.com

Stephen

“I didn't know what intersex even meant, until I discovered it was who I am"

Founder of Surrey Pride, Stephen, only discovered he was intersex after a diagnosis of bowel cancer when he found out that his parents had chosen to raise him as a male.  

For more information on being intersex click here.

Marie

“Even today, my kids say to me, Mommy, you're not gay"

Marie is a grandmother, who grew up in the Bronx in New York City and she didn't come out until her 50s.

For more information on the organisation SAGE click here

Alex

“I remember thinking: 'When I grow up I want to be a girl'"

Alex is a trans woman who grew up changing into dresses the moment she got home from her all-boys school, but knew it "wasn't what boys should do".

She is also the host of the "She Said, They said" podcast.

For more information on the charity Mermaids, click here

David

“My wife found my chatroom history, that's how I came out to her"

David spent many years married to a woman and being a stay at home dad to his children.  He didn't come out until he was 55.

He is the author of the book "How to Tell your LGBTQ+ Story"

Faz

“I was struggling with my identity at six years old"

Faz is a shia muslim of Pakistani heritage, who came out first as gay and then as a trans man.  He has been homeless several times throughout his life and now works as a trustee for the Albert Kennedy Trust

Lorelei

“Discovering that I was trans gave me back my life."

Lorelei is a trans woman who lives in Bolton in England and she’s a cosplayer, musician and former musical theatre actress.  She  describes herself as a goth gremlin version of Elvira!  

Melissa

“The moment she kissed me, I felt an enormous sense of relief."

Melissa Ferrick is an award-winning singer-songwriter who has released seventeen albums and shared the stage with with Morrissey, Tegan and Sara,  and many more!

They came out as queer many years ago and has recently began to identify as gender non-conforming.

Aidy

“My online boyfriend turned out to be a woman!"

Aidy Smith is the Wine and Spirits columnist for The Independent and host of The Three Drinkers on Amazon Prime. He grew up in Yorkshire and had to come out twice in less than a minute to his family!

Lee

“My Dad told me as a kid, you can be anything in life, but don't be a lesbian."

This week, meet Lee, a real LA woman! Lee identifies as a lesbian, but it took her a long time to realise she was gay.  Wait until you hear what her mother-in-law had to say when she came out!  It's a Coming Out Stories first!

Val 

“Don't be afraid to be Muslim and gay. You can be both"

The provocatively name Val Qaeda is a Muslim drag queen who was thrown out of home for being gay.  After staying with grandparents, Val was then attacked by their grandad and forced to run away. A truly inspiring and moving story of great resilience.

Sam

“I had a revelation about my sexuality during lockdown"

Sam knew twenty years ago when she was a teenager that she was attracted to women, but it wasn't until she started an online course that she finally came out as a lesbian.

Ray

“I kept quiet about being gay, even to myself.  Dating some women in my teens, helped me understand who I was." 

Ray is a real-life ghost hunter who had some trouble convincing his dad he was gay, as he had previously dated women.

Raga

“When I finally came out as a lesbian, my own mother threatened me with a knife" 

Buckle up! This is an extraordinary story of a woman who fought for decades to live her true life. Raga was brought up in India and her mother was so shocked when Raga came out, she attacked her.

Jamie

“I couldn't see myself living as a gay man.  I was too fearful"

Out and proud musician Jamie talks about repressing his sexuality growing up and how his uncle told him he was gay, before he realised himself.

Rhian

“I was distressed about the fact that I'm asexual for a very long time"

In a first for Coming Out Stories, we speak to Rhian about being asexual. She discusses how it took a while for her to understand what being asexual meant and how she found her community.

Kestral

“I would rather run around naked than wear the 'boy' clothes I was given"

Kestral identifies as a queer trans woman, who told us she questioned her identity from the age of four

Leighton

“I was too scared to go to my own father's funeral"

This time,  you'll hear from Leighton, who grew up in England but has family in Nigeria, where it's still illegal to be gay.  His family challenged his sexuality after seeing a facebook post.

Claire

“Telling my daughter was such a weight off my shoulders"

Claire didn't come out as trans until her mid 40s when she had to tell both her wife and her teenage daughter.

Please be aware this interview may be triggering as it mentions both transphobia and sexual abuse.

Eleanor

“I went on a date with a man who I had convinced myself was perfect and told myself - if it doesn't work,  then you're gay"

This time,  you'll hear from graphic artist and author Eleanor Crewes, the woman behind the book "The Times I Knew I Was Gay"

Eleanor went to great lengths to confirm her sexuality!

Coming Out Stories is back! 

A quick hello from Emma and Sam to let you know about some of the incredible people we've spoken to for season two - launching April 7!

Don't forget our book is out!  You can order now from Amazon, Blackwells,  Waterstones or to support independent bookshops from Bookshops.org

Find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

Coming Out Stories the book is.....Coming Out!

A very special episode in which presenter Emma Goswell and producer Sam Walker discuss the forthcoming Coming Out Stories book! They talk about a number of topics including:

* Why it's still important to come out in 2021

* What to do if you get a reaction you weren't expecting

* Why celebrities coming out is still importnat

*  How people can be beter allies to the LGBTQ+ community

* Stories that have really stuck with us

The book is out on January 21. You can pre-order now from Amazon, Blackwells,  Waterstones or to support independent bookshops from Bookshops.org

Find us on twitter @ComeOutStories and on Instagram @ComingOutStoriesPod

Michael Gunning

“I suppressed so many feelings for so long. I just didn't want to be seen as any different from the other competitive swimmers."

There aren't many professional athletes who are out, but the amazing swimmer @MichaelGunning1 is brave enough to compete internationally as an out gay man.

He talks to us about coming out on national television, after realising, on a bisexual dating show, that he wasn't bisexual at all!

Tim

“I always thought there must be something wrong with me”

Timothy Tsai grew up in Taiwan in the 60s and 70s and knew he had to 'escape' to the USA, where he would feel safer as a gay man. He travelled all over the world until, in Hong Kong, he met and fell in love with a Welshman! He now lives in Pembrokeshire

Donnya Piggott

“I fancied women, so thought I was bisexual. I 'obviously' fancied men too I told myself, as that's what I was supposed to do”

Donnya is a queer woman and LGBTQ+ rights activist from Barbados.  She struggled with being the sort of woman she thought other people wanted her to be.  She loved playing sport and didn't like dressing in a super-feminine way, so she entered a beauty contest - which just put her a lot closer to a lot of women!

In her early 20s she founded BGLAD which supports  LGBTQ + people in Barbados.  This led to her being invited to Buckingham Palace!

Divina de Campo

“If ever there was a little queerdo kid – it was me”

Star of The Voice and runner-up in the first ever Ru Paul’s Drag Race UK, Divina de Campo talks about coming out as gay and then non-binary and offers some great advice on WHEN to come out.

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“My brother found out my secret when he opened my post”

Rachel identifies as being “partially gender-fluid” or a “cross dresser” In the 1980s she used to order clothes and shoes from what was then called a “transvestite catalogue”

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“My straight brother took me to gay bars, to make sure I was safe”

TV weather presenter and celebrity drummer Owain Wyn Evans, found that his parents took some time to understand that he was gay, as they didn’t know any other LGBTQ+ people.  But it was his brother’s reaction that really surprised him.

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“She asked me if I was gay and I just said “Yes!” I couldn’t believe I had actually said it”

Jessie grew up in Essex and struggled to come out as a lesbian at school, until a very fateful trip to London and the nightclub Heaven.

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"I reclaimed the words bullies used to throw at me for being gay"

Successful make up artist Patrick grew up in Northern Ireland where he was relentlessly bullied for being gay.

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“I ran away from home and found my queer family”

Tim Sigsworth MBE is the Chief Executive of the Albert Kennedy Trust.  Like a lot of the young people he now helps, Tim had a very hard time coming out as his family were far from understanding.

After coming out of a coma in 2016, Tim realised who his true family really were

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“I never thought I would have the courage to tell my parents who I am"

Asifa Lahore is Britain’s first out Muslim drag queen. She now identifies as a trans woman, but first came out as a gay man.

She really struggled coming out and was even pressured to get into an arranged marriage

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“I will never forget the dead look in my mother’s eyes when I told her”

Writer, broadcaster and political commentator Iain Dale didn’t come out until later in life. He does have some regrets about waiting for so long, but once he did as he puts it  “There was absolutely no going back!”

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Oskar grew up in Trinidad  and identifies as trans masculine, but non binary.  In terms of their sexuality they identify as pansexual.  Suppressing the urge to transition for 20 years had a huge impact on their mental health.

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Yvy De Luca is the author of the memoir  “Tainted Beauty” She identifies as an Indian trans woman, who is also a pansexual

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Matthew Schaffer is an actor, dancer, choreographer and author. 

He’s so out and proud he’s written a book called “Dancing Out of the Closet” .

He wasn't always so proud though, and lived in the closet for years, worried his sexuality would ruin his career and friendships.

JJ, or Jessie, is a gas fitter from Manchester who is happily married to a woman and has two children. But they identify as non-binary or gender fluid and were terrified they would lose their family when they came out.

Matthew  Diebler is a filmmaker and TV producer (listen to find out more about his lesbian horror movie!)  who lives in LA, but growing up in rural Ohio he had a terrible time at school.

Lil King Cat is a singer who came out in Limerick in Ireland in the 1990s.  She was in for quite a shock when she came out to her mum…

James Barr is an out and proud radio presenter, comedian and star of the podcast "A Gay and a Non Gay."

He wasn't always out though, in fact he was quite religious in his youth and struggled with coming out, finding bible passages to reassure himself that Godf would still love him if he was gay.

Comedian, TV presenter and "person from Birmingham" Joe Lycett tells us about coming out three times, firstly as gay, then as bisexual, then pansexual.

Talented singer songwriter, Katey Brookes is originally from Bristol, but grew up in London, in a religious cult based in Arizona, which had a huge effect on her relationship with her own sexuality

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Jose, a Puerto Rican man who lives in the Bronx in New York City tells us about his huge challenges coming out, suffering terrible sexual abuse, being thrown out of home at just 13 by his father, then finding his logical family in Greenwch village and eventually finding love.

GJ struggled with coming out as a lesbian because of her Rastafarian faith.  Her parents hail from Barbuda,  near Antigua.

She was outed without her knowledge by The Carribbean Times newspaper and had to make a tricky phone call to her parents....

Christine , the author of Trans Britain, has been at the heart of the Trans Rights movement since the early '90s, campaigning to get laws changed and was eventually awarded an MBE for her work.

She also has one of the earliest coming out stories we have heard – she was just four when she told her mum she wanted to grow up to be a woman.  But it took another 20 years until she came out to them again.  

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Asad grew up in a British Pakistani muslim household and feared the worst when coming out to his parents.  So much so, he packed a bag and had a friend wait outside in his car, ready to escape.

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Growing up in rural wales, pre-internet, Mark says it was penpals who helped him understand his sexuality, but it was appearing on national TV show Stars in Their Eyes, that led him to him coming out on a big scale!

Saski is a singer and a Pride host.

She struggled coming out at school, but now works for Educate and Celebrate.  Her story contains one of the best reactions from a parent ever!

A very special episode to commemorate 50 years since one of the most important events in LGBTQ+ history: The Stonewall Riots.

Martin Boyce was the son of Italian immigrants and grew up in New York, coming out in the 60s at a time it was very dangerous to be gay in the city.

He was at The Stonewall Inn on 28 June 1969 and stood, defiant, as the NYPD charged.

His story is moving and incredible.  Please share it.

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Nadia grew up in a religious household with a Christian mum and a Muslim dad.

She was always too afraid to come out at school becuase of the intense bullying she witnessed.  But when her mum was seriously ill in hospital  Nadia knew she wanted to tell her exactly who she was.

LGBT historian and author of the book Making Gay History talks to us about his televised coming out story, in an epsiode recorded outside The Stonewall Inn in Greenwich Village, New York.

The first relationship Chris McNaghten had ended up with him being blackmailed. 

He talks frankly about his struggles with mental health and tackling homophobia in his sport head on.

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Mum and children's entertainer Lucia was giving her mum a lift when she came out.  She didn't expect the response she got...

Comedian and TV presenter Stephen Bailey tells us his no-nonsense Coming Out stories, including snogging at school parties and never telling his parents "I'm gay"

Sophie came out as gay at 17.  Her mum really couldn’t cope and threatened to divorce Sophie’s dad.

This, however, is a real story of eventual understanding and the realisation that things do, nearly always, get better.

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Lucy came out in the 1980s in Cumbria, was bullied both at school and home and was even given electric shock treatment for being gay.

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Marta is Polish and identifies as a lesbian and she spent years trying to come to terms with her sexuality after having a secret long term relationship with her best friend.

Poet, playwright and performer Louise Wallwein came out to a social worker, whilst being raised by nuns in a care home.

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The star of Ru Paul's Drag Race on her journey to becoming the woman she is today.

Bill grew up in a children's home in Southport and came out, aged just 13 to a local priest, who proved to be a huge support to him.

Charli first came out as bisexual, but now identifies as pansexual, which she says a lot of people don't understand.

She is now married but also in a polyamorous relationship.

Californian Doug realised he was gay when he had sex with his best friend, the day after he slept with his girlfriend.

He was also outed against his will by someone bent on revenge.

Former editor of Attitude magazine reveals the unique way he came out to his mum and the impact it had on their relationship.

He also discusses his book Straight Jacket, which looks at mental health within the LGBT+ community.

The Secret Is Out tells the coming-out stories of LGBTQ people —...

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Actor, singer and lesbian icon Heather Peace talks about sexuality, homophobia, mental health and being driven home by a close friend to come out to her parents.

Coming out in the 1970s at just 14 years old wasn't alwasy easy for Carlton, but his passion for celebrating his sexuality and refusing to apologise for who he is massively inspiring!

Fabulous drag queen Appollonia Cruz AKA The Queen of the Bronx talks up growing up as a pansexual Puerto Rican immigrant in New York City and performing on the drag scene in Miami.

Singer songwriter Lucy Spraggan candidly and often hilariously, talks about her identity (as a boy, called Max until she was a teenager) her coming out and how she handled homophobia.

In a beautifully honest interview Jacob talks about coming out to themselves and then to their family, just four weeks before this interview.

Musical theatre star Lucas discusses coming out .... to close friend Newton Faulkner, whilst in a Green Day covers band....!

Star of the first ever bisexual dating show on UK TV, The BiLife, Daisy had no concern about coming out to her family, but struggled as her brother was bullied becuase of her sexuality.

Enoch's story is one which should have no place in the 21st century.  It's a story which involves gay conversion therapy.

It's also the story of a man who overcame intense prejudice and found his own family.

Liran is originally from Israel and grew up knowing just one other lesbian who was seen as the 'outcast' at school.

When she finally did come out - so did her sister!

Recorded backstage at Mickey's in West Hollywood, hear from the inimitable Morgan McMichaels, star of Rupaul's Drag Race Season 2 and AllStars!

THE QUEEN OF SCOTLAND!

Warning:  Contains VERY strong language!

Mikey Worrall, the wonderful host of our brilliant sister podcast Backstage With... shares his heartfelt coming out story and some great advice too.

The Secret Is Out tells the coming-out stories of LGBTQ people —...

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Featuring possibly the greatest excuse ever when you're caught in bed with another woman.

Funny, heartfelt and honest, nurse Angela's story of coming out as a lesbian to her family and friends.

Born and raised in a traditional Latino household in LA, JP shares his often hilarious stories of coming out to himself, his friends and his family.

In an ultimately uplifting and positive story, black British muslim Richard shares his experience of how his sexuality seriously challenged his relationship with both his parents and God.

Imagine being in heterosexual relationships your whole life before realising you were actually gay. How will friends and family react when you tell them?  

Sometimes, you have to come out more than once to the people you love, sometimes you may chose not to come out at all.

The amazing Kim Tatum aka Miss Kimberley has done both.

We were thrilled to talk to the ONLY out gay Prince in the world!

Listen to the astonishing story of Prince Manvendra as he discusses growing up in a country where it was illegal to be gay, the public riots that ensued when he came out and gay deities!

Prince Manvendra runs the amazing Lakshya Trust, which works with the LGBT community.

Two absolutely incredible women tell their coming out stories and also stories of being lesbian activists in Manchester in the 1970s and how the Gay Liberation Front changed the lives of LGBT people across the country.

It's a delight to brind a special extra episode this week as we celebrate International Coming Out Day 2018!

From being dismissed from the Air Force for his "incompatible homosexuality" to becoming Lord Mayor of his home city!  Carl's journey is hugely inspiring and filled with joy.

The Secret Is Out tells the coming-out stories of LGBTQ people —...

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Alfie shares his experiences of telling his girlfriend, his friends and his family that he is trans and talks honesty about the physical and mental aspects of his transition.

The briliant writer, broadcaster and "Madonna of Bolton" author Matt Cain talks about growing up in the 80s and his parents fear of what being a gay man meant for their son's future.

Radio producer Ellen talks frankly about coming out (or not!) as a bisexual and the challenges she faces, due to society's preconceptions about bisexuals.

The wonderful presenter Olivia Jones talks about her experiences of guilt, fear and pride. 

In epsiode two, actor and presenter Dean McCullough talks about growing up as "Gay Dean" in Belfast in the 90s and 00s

A terrific start to a brand new series!  Hear the hilarious and poignant coming out story of your fantastic host Emma Goswell.